Like discussing sex and its education with children, parents also need to talk to their gay son about their sexual orientation. To talk does not mean to discourage him from his gay orientation, but also allow him to come out of the shell. Communication is the key to bringing the gay son out of his closet and giving him a chance to ‘come out' with his nagging problem. At school or with friends your gay son must have faced some verbal or physical abuse for not being as boyish as the other kids. He could not explain his problem or come out with his viewpoint in front of anybody.

Just think how you would react to the new family environment if your son or daughter brought in their girlfriend or boyfriend. You would be excited to meet them and wish well for your children. If they are invited for dinner or lunch, you would take care to be perfect and not ask the wrong questions that might offend them. You must be comfortable thinking about the scenario as you have it all ingrained in you. You know how to behave as you think a heterosexual relationship is the be all and end all of all romantic relationships.

Like several heterosexual children, your gay child also would not be ready for a lecture on safe sex from his parents. But this bit of advice you cannot withhold from your gay child as more people are perishing of AIDS these days than cancer and accidents.

Much of the domestic violence that occurs from a gay relationship when your gay son is the victim is related to hate and intolerance that cause similar violence. To avoid domestic violence you should let your gay son get the freedom and acceptance he needs like anybody else.

Accepting the truth about your gay child's marriage with a same sex person can be quite a big problem initially. The shock and perhaps some anger can make you feel miserable as you had notions about your son. You had a difficult task accepting your child was gay earlier, and now, you have to battle with the idea that he would marry another man.